How are you today?
Get it off your chest.
For anyone who has lost someone, recently or long ago. Put down a little of what you're carrying.
Which best describes you?
This changes a few questions and which support lines come first. You can change it any time.
Everything you enter stays on this phone. Nothing is sent to any service or anyone else. Unladen Grief is a prototype. It is not a medical or emergency service and is not connected to any service or government agency. · Give feedback
Take a moment.
Sit somewhere comfortable. Breathe. There's nothing you have to do right now.
Breathe with this
What you might be feeling
- Shaky, sick, or a racing heart
- Numb, or oddly calm
- Tearful, angry, or both
- Going over what you could have done differently
These are normal reactions. They usually settle over hours or days.
If the grief feels too much
If you're thinking about ending your life, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 000 now. Otherwise, reach out to someone today, even just to say it's a hard day.
Ground yourself
Look around. Name them, out loud or in your head.
Call someone now
Add someone close to you, a friend or a grief support line in so they're here when you need them.
Not sure who to tell?
If you don't feel safe telling family, there are other people you can go to. Or write down what happened, just for you, while it's fresh.
What helps after
Handover to yourself
A few minutes at the end of the day. Notice how you're going, gently.
Please talk to someone now
You said you've had thoughts of harming yourself or not wanting to be here. Please call one of these now. If you're in immediate danger, call 000.
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Your safety
You said you didn't feel fully safe. That matters. Reach out to someone you trust, or call Lifeline (13 11 14).
Getting home safely
You said you've got very little energy left. Grief is exhausting. Rest is allowed.
What might help
People you can call
This isn't a medical assessment. It's a way to notice how you're going over time.
How it's been going
Last 14 days
Handovers
This phone isn't letting the page save, so handovers won't be kept.
Privacy & your data
Add a PIN, download what you've entered, or delete everything from this phone.
Grief is love with nowhere to go
What to watch for, and what helps. Tap a heading to open it.
The early days
- There's no right way to grieve. Numbness, anger, guilt and relief are all normal.
- Eat, drink water and rest, even if you don't feel like it.
- Let people help with practical things.
After a death by suicide
- Grief after suicide is often complicated by shock and questions.
- StandBy (1300 727 247) supports anyone bereaved by suicide, for up to two years.
When a baby or child dies
- Red Nose (1300 308 307) supports families after the death of a baby or child, 24/7.
Anniversaries and hard days
- Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays can bring grief rushing back.
- Plan something gentle for those days.
When people stop asking
- After the funeral, support often drops away.
- It's OK to tell people you still need them.
- Griefline (1300 845 745) can point you to grief support.
When it doesn't ease
- If grief is still overwhelming after many months, or you can't function, talk to your GP.
- Grief counselling can help.
Signs you're carrying too much
- Not eating or sleeping
- Feeling numb for a long time
- Drinking more
- Not wanting to see anyone
- Feeling there is no point going on
Grief affects body and mind. If you feel there is no point going on, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14.
When to get more help
If grief is still overwhelming after many months, or you can't manage daily life, talk to your GP. Grief counselling can help.
People to call
Save the ones that apply to you. They stay on this phone and show up on the Help now screen.
Support lines
Grief support
Sometimes the person you'd normally tell is part of the problem, or it just doesn't feel safe. Here are other ways to get support. You choose what to do, and when.
From your organisation
A grief or bereavement service can add its own numbers here.
Someone outside your reporting line
- Griefline (now part of SANE Australia). Grief support information, 1300 845 745, weekdays.
- StandBy. After a suicide, 1300 727 247.
- Red Nose. After the death of a baby or child, 1300 308 307, 24/7.
- Your GP. Outside work altogether, and can refer you on.
Text or chat instead of calling
For when talking out loud isn't possible, or feels like too much.
For particular situations
Grief has no timetable. Support is available whenever you need it.
Spiritual and religious support
Some people find strength in prayer, ritual or their faith or cultural community after a hard day. Others find it in nature, music, exercise or quiet. Whatever gives you meaning counts.
If your workplace has a chaplain or wellbeing officer, they support people of any faith or none. Their role is to listen, not to persuade.
Words to start with
The first sentence is often the hardest. You could say:
"I'm not ready to make a complaint. I just need to talk this through."
"Can this stay between us? Is there anything you'd have to pass on?"
"I'm still not okay and everyone thinks I should be."
"I just need to talk about them."
What happens if I tell someone?
- Counsellors, peer supporters and helplines keep what you say private. The main exception is if someone is at serious risk of harm. If you're unsure, ask at the start.
- Your private record in this app stays on your phone unless you choose to share it.
Not ready to tell anyone?
That's OK. You can write down what happened, just for yourself, and decide later.
Numbers and services are for New South Wales and Australia-wide. Check with your organisation for its own services.
Write down what happened
It stays on this phone. It isn't a report, and nothing is sent anywhere. If you later decide to raise something, notes written at the time are easier to rely on than memory.
My entries
Entries can't be edited, so each one shows when it was written. To add something, write a new entry.
No entries yet.
If you decide to share it, you can download it or send it to yourself.
Your phone, your data
PIN lock
Ask for a PIN when the app opens, and after it has been in the background for a minute.
PIN is on.
The PIN stops someone else opening the app on your phone. It doesn't encrypt what's stored, so keep your phone locked too. If you forget it, you can delete everything and start again.
Hide the screen
Tap the eye button at the top of any screen to cover the app straight away, for example at home or on a walk. Tap to come back, or enter your PIN if you've set one.
Download my data
Download everything you've entered (handovers, private record and contacts) as a text file. You could keep a copy, or show it to your GP or counsellor.
Delete everything
Deletes your handovers, private record, role, contacts and PIN from this phone.
Delete everything from this phone? This can't be undone.
About Unladen Grief
Unladen™ Grief is a prototype made by Co-Synthesist Pty Ltd, Newcastle NSW. Unladen™ is a trade mark of Co-Synthesist Pty Ltd. It isn't a medical or emergency service, and it isn't connected to any service or government agency. The questions haven't been clinically validated yet.
What's stored: your role, handovers, private record, saved contacts and settings, only in this phone's browser. Nothing is sent to anyone. There are no accounts, analytics or trackers.
Feedback: the feedback form is the only part of Unladen Grief that sends anything, and only when you press Send. It doesn't include anything else from the app.
Keep in mind: if you clear your browser data or remove the app, what you've entered goes too. Download a copy first if you want to keep it.
Version 0.1 prototype · September 2026